Styles of Helplessness, femdom bondage guide

As we live behind the veil and continuously explore the midnight purple world of our sexuality, there are a few styles of bondage you may want to experiment with. I want to discuss some of them here with you, and later on in this chapter, there are illustrated instructions on some advanced bondage techniques for you to experiment with. These techniques definitely should not be tried without basic instruction in bondage techniques and safety. As this is an intermediate guide, the basics are not discussed in detail here.

In love bondage, the scene that is created is meant to heighten his awareness of his body and Jus vulnerability. It is often referred to as “tied and teased" because that is a succinct description of the scene. Love bondage is usually performed with soft, silky ropes or scarves, and includes gently teasing the submissive in any number of ways. These could include using the fingertips, a feather, soft flogger, toothbrush, even metal talons, claws, or wartenburg wheel. She could use her hair on his bare skin, or brush his chest hair with her hairbrush. Once bound, the domina teases him into arousal and then prolongs it without allowing him any orgasms. The domina skilled in bondage can tease and re-tie him for hours, heightening his senses and intensifying his need and desire for release. If properly done, he will be afloat on a sea of blissful, craven lust, hungry for any attention from the mistress. Her slightest touch will send a frisson along his spine to explode in his brain and genitals.

Another style of bondage scene that lives a very healthy life behind the veil is one that combines bondage and submission. This scene is created to bring the submissive to a state of surrender and make him yield to the power of his mistress. Bondage accessories are often used as window dressing in this type of scene to signify" the submissive's status. A collar for his neck, a leash with which to control his actions, wrist and ankle cuffs to constantly remind him of his vulnerability. Usually each token is assigned a meaning: when the collar is on, he is yours to command. Or else the token may have some ritual of acceptance attached to it: kissing the collar as a symbol of his acceptance of your dominance over him.

A less sensuous form of bondage is what I like to call rough bondage. Obviously", unlike love bondage, rough bondage is used for high-level play, perhaps with a violet wand or TENS (transcutaneous electrical nerve stimulation) unit, or used to restrain him so you can punish or discipline him severely. One can easily see the sensuality in being tied down to experience the delightful floating helplessness, but the reason for the bondage in this scene is to make him hold still for punishment. Because of the complexity of BDSM fantasies, being tied down and put into tight bondage frees him to experience the other sensations being given to him (the emotional aspect of being punished and the physical sensation of pain) without fear of guilt or reprisal. His chains, ropes, or restraints set him free as he thanks his mistress for the sensations she gives him. Possibly able to struggle but unable to free himself, he accepts his position, comes to love it as part of his submission, and subjugates his will to that of his mistress.